Hey, you kinky bastard. You’ve been exploring your submissive side online for a while now haven’t you? You’ve watched clips, perhaps bought some. I know you’ve visited all the kinky sites that provide free content, such as milovana.com and ss.deviatenow.com. You’ve spent endless evenings just browsing before having a sad quickie with your hand, and now you’re ready to take your exploration to the next level and submit to a real women.
“But Dan, they’re all just after money, they won’t domme me. Help!”
Well that’s not actually true. I can certainly empathise with you though, it does seem like everybody wants into your wallet, not your pants at first, but that’s only because you’re not putting in any effort.
Lets use plain old boring sex as an example, because everything seems simpler in vanilla terms. Say you wanted a little sex tonight. What would you do? Unless you are blessed with the genetics of a Norse God, standing in the street and shouting, “someone sleep with me” is going to return very poor results. So going into a BDSM community (or street if you like metaphors) and shouting “someone domme me, I’ll do whatever you say” isn’t going to be effective either, is it?
Why do some Dommes want money?
It’s Economics 101- supply and demand. They have something you want, and therefore there is a market to be exploited. It’s human nature. Accept it. For every 100 submissive men online, there is maybe 1 or 2 dominant women. If there wasn’t women charging for domination online, I’d be visiting Thailand, getting the op, and doing it myself!
“Ok Dan, I understand, you’re a genius. Where do I go from here?”
What do you bring to the table?
Lets say you joined Twitter or some other platform that allows you to communicate with dominant women. You start sending out a few messages to people you like the look of. What is special about you? Especially on websites like Twitter there are so many men who just blend together. Eggs for avatars, limited to no biography, and they never tweet anything interesting at all. What on god’s green Earth makes you think that they’ll want to jump into a relationship with you?
5 Tips to get a free online Mistress
1) Stand out from the crowd
Be bold, let your personality shine through. Start conversations with people, compliment people (don’t be creepy!). Become friends, network, be funny, flirty and nice. Nobody likes a boring sub. You wouldn’t like a Domme who just said “do this, do that”, with no other communication, which brings us to…
2) Two way communication
You did it, you finally got a Domme to give you a shot. But as soon as things get kinky you become this boring ‘yes Mistress drone’ with nothing else to say. It has to be fun for her, in fact especially her- you’re the damn sub, make her happy! Making her happy makes you happy.
3) Stand up for yourself
Have you got a hard limit that you’re not willing to cross, then you actually, have a right to have that respected, believe it or not. If she isn’t willing to accept that, then you aren’t a match, move on, but try and stay friends. You can burn bridges with Dommes very quickly. They’re like a massive gang who has each others back, but don’t tell them I told you. Anyway, don’t accept being treated poorly, just because you think that’s what should happen. Your relationship will be better for it.
4) Accept its exactly the same as a vanilla relationship
Yep. 75% of the time you will just be chatting about boring run of the mill stuff that every other couple does. Don’t like it, go pro.
5) Keep fit & healthy
The BDSM community are generally one of the most accepting groups of people in the world. But still, if you are going to message the most attractive women you can find, she might not be attracted to your man titties. Hit the gym, eat some fruit. Your confidence will go through the roof (which happens when you get fit), which in itself makes you more attractive and you will find someone who likes you. I’m not saying get ripped (do if you can though), just stay healthy.
So there you have it. If you thought that just because you are willing to do whatever someone says, you will get some easy female attention, you were sadly mistaken. Work at it, be yourself, stand out, be nice and you will be MILES ahead of all the other wankers out there begging for some attention. Good luck, have fun and I hope you all find the free online Mistress you desire!